Part 2 : Meeting new people “How to talk to people”

Jul 20, 2011 by admin    No Comments    Posted under: How to Blind Date, How to talk to people

How to get pass hello, start a conversation

Now that you  found your place of destination on meeting new faces, now its time to build up the courage to talk to them. starting  that first conversation .  However, this is easier said then done. For some people it comes naturally and for others, it’s an effect of social anxiety. Nevertheless, its easy to get started to talking to those around you or in huge crowds. With a little self-confident and guts you’ll find the perfect conversation to lead you to personal satisfaction and perhaps a few new phone numbers in your pocket.

 how to start a conversation

1.  Evaluate Your Surroundings: Take a look around you, including the people.  See who are the wild ones, versus the mild ones.  At the same time you’re doing this, make eye contact and smile at the same time, a little hello smile and if they do it back it’s an open invitation to know they are possibility pretty friendly to chat with.

2. Say hello: Pretty easy so far on how to start a conversation.  Just go right up to them and say hello, how are you?  As we’ll don’t forget your name…Perhaps even point out something, their outfit, the way they danced, or perhaps the way their cologne or perfume smells. People love complements! so make it an ice beaker.

3. Make eye contact and smile: People love when they know your paying attention just to them, as well a warm smile, makes you seem more friendly and more memorable. Even I, remember a man who smiled while talking to me years ago, from face to personality ..smiling shows your willingness to chat.

4.  Ask questions to receive questions: My father is a great speaker, and he used to grab the  attention of any person while he talked, so one day I asked how? he said plain and simple..”people love to talk about themselves” which is true, however, you don;t want this to back fire, as they really love to talk about them selves so just like dates keep the questions short and simple, where you from, how did you find about this place? or chat about things around you, because you did meet them their, so see if it’s a common place for them.

5. Try to make them laugh and laugh yourself:  After you get a feel of them and how they are, try to make them laugh, even a simple witty comment can get you loads of brownie points.  Even myself, remember a good joke or comment that was told to me!  As well if they say something funny, don’t be shy to laugh yourself.

6. Be sincere and be yourself: You never know how far this conversation will take you, be honest in all you say and most of all learn to be yourself.  This will surely take you far!

7. Keep your space: Oh man, I can tell you all the people who come way to close to me at first meet, just make me feel funny. It’s just uncomfortable and awkward, rule of thumb the distance it takes to shake their hand is where you should be staying. Let the conversation draw you closer, not you coming closer for the conversation.

8.  Remember their name and at least one thing from the conversation: I once met a guy that came up to me and asked how I was and with the move was and he referred me by name. Oh wow was I impressed…however, when he asked if I remembered his name…I didn’t and at that moment i saw the light go out.  You never know if you’ll meet that person again, and chances are you will, if it’s a local hangout spot.

9. Don’t hesitate : Take action at every moment…because a moment not taking is a lost one forever. You just don’t know that guy or girl you’re looking at might be snagged up by another! Move quick darling!

10. Recognize when their isn’t a connection:  If eyes are wondering other places,not really listening to what you have to say, then its time to move on.  Don’t take it to heart, or let it discourage you…we all go through it and move on to the next opportunity. As we’ll if you’re not interested just politely excuse yourself and move on as we’ll.

Where ever the situation occurs just be yourself and know your surroundings. Have fun, besides you know the saying life’s to short to let it pass away.