Part 2 : Meeting new people “How to talk to people”
Posted under: How to get pass hello, start a conversation
Now that you found your place of destination on meeting new faces, now its time to build up the courage to talk to them. starting that first conversation . However, this is easier said then done. For some people it comes naturally and for others, it’s an effect of social anxiety. Nevertheless, its easy to get started to talking to those around you or in huge crowds. With a little self-confident and guts you’ll find the perfect conversation to lead you to personal satisfaction and perhaps a few new phone numbers in your pocket.
how to start a conversation
1. Evaluate Your Surroundings: Take a look around you, including the people. See who are the wild ones, versus the mild ones. At the same time you’re doing this, make eye contact and smile at the same time, a little hello smile and if they do it back it’s an open invitation to know they are possibility pretty friendly to chat with.
2. Say hello: Pretty easy so far on how to start a conversation. Just go right up to them and say hello, how are you? As we’ll don’t forget your name…Perhaps even point out something, their outfit, the way they danced, or perhaps the way their cologne or perfume smells. People love complements! so make it an ice beaker.
3. Make eye contact and smile: People love when they know your paying attention just to them, as well a warm smile, makes you seem more friendly and more memorable. Even I, remember a man who smiled while talking to me years ago, from face to personality ..smiling shows your willingness to chat.
4. Ask questions to receive questions: My father is a great speaker, and he used to grab the attention of any person while he talked, so one day I asked how? he said plain and simple..”people love to talk about themselves” which is true, however, you don;t want this to back fire, as they really love to talk about them selves so just like dates keep the questions short and simple, where you from, how did you find about this place? or chat about things around you, because you did meet them their, so see if it’s a common place for them.
5. Try to make them laugh and laugh yourself: After you get a feel of them and how they are, try to make them laugh, even a simple witty comment can get you loads of brownie points. Even myself, remember a good joke or comment that was told to me! As well if they say something funny, don’t be shy to laugh yourself.
6. Be sincere and be yourself: You never know how far this conversation will take you, be honest in all you say and most of all learn to be yourself. This will surely take you far!
7. Keep your space: Oh man, I can tell you all the people who come way to close to me at first meet, just make me feel funny. It’s just uncomfortable and awkward, rule of thumb the distance it takes to shake their hand is where you should be staying. Let the conversation draw you closer, not you coming closer for the conversation.
8. Remember their name and at least one thing from the conversation: I once met a guy that came up to me and asked how I was and with the move was and he referred me by name. Oh wow was I impressed…however, when he asked if I remembered his name…I didn’t and at that moment i saw the light go out. You never know if you’ll meet that person again, and chances are you will, if it’s a local hangout spot.
9. Don’t hesitate : Take action at every moment…because a moment not taking is a lost one forever. You just don’t know that guy or girl you’re looking at might be snagged up by another! Move quick darling!
10. Recognize when their isn’t a connection: If eyes are wondering other places,not really listening to what you have to say, then its time to move on. Don’t take it to heart, or let it discourage you…we all go through it and move on to the next opportunity. As we’ll if you’re not interested just politely excuse yourself and move on as we’ll.
Where ever the situation occurs just be yourself and know your surroundings. Have fun, besides you know the saying life’s to short to let it pass away.
Part 1: How to meet new people; online and offline
Stepping out and meeting new people
We as humans, live very busy lives. From work, to family and to keeping up the details of our everyday routine, we often find ourselves surrounded …with the same old thing. Now, if you ever had the Idea, where you just wanted something different, perhaps meet new people, change of routine and explore a little outside your box. Your not alone in that case. However,Where would you go to meet new people? and once you find these new people how do you talk to them, to know them? These answers and more will be reveled to you, as this is the same way I learned to do it…and worked for me.
Stepping out of your routine, is something most of us don’t really have time for, or most of us think we don’t. It’s just a matter of a little time management and a full on desire to get out there and meet up. But for those that really don’t have the time, your first place is online dating sites. They provide you with the convince of staying home, chatting with others, and well…meeting new people. There are never-ending possibilities as you already know with online dating and social sites, in a matter of a few clicks you have a few internet buddy’s.
Now, what about outside the internet? I’m going to keep it real simple, because if your new to meeting others in different situations, I already know you might tend to get a little nervous or socially shy. No worries though, these are places that will get you in touch and out of your box. First check out the local adult school, take a new class. This is by far the most easiest and relaxed way to meet new folks, as we’ll a great excuse to talk to others. In which as class progresses you build relationships with others. Have no time to take a class, how about a sports class, or gym. Gives you the chance to work on your fitness as well meeting new faces, perhaps later down the line pick up a fitness partner. Still to main stream for you? How about a singles club or singles night at a club, these by far are great ways to meet new faces and hopefully grab a few numbers along the way. Although, those are a few of my favorite here are a few more to get you thinking.
- travel to different detestation’s
- online social forums
- meet up groups in your local newspaper
- Party invites,by your friends
- local bar
- take dance class
- speed dating
- throw your own party and tell people to invite 2 of their friends
- flea markets and swap meets (sometimes the sellers are hot! and always friendly)
- put on a smile and build your confidence and start talking!
Blind Dating “How to blind date”
Blind Dating
So you got set up?
We’ll your sister, mother, dad, or friend thought it was time you get out on the dating game. You’ve talked about it, perhaps even laughed about the blind dating moment…however it’s here and it’s happening to you! What now? We’ll let’s get to the basics of blind dating, kinda break it down so you know whats about to happen.
First, you now have a set up on a blind date through a friend or a co-worker who knows both you and so and so would be perfect together. Now its time to prepare, of course your going to ask as many details about the other person,(hopefully, your friend knows them enough to know you would be great together!) what do they look like? What kind of personality do they have? where do they live? So forth and so forth, That’s great do it, the more you know, the better your going to relax a tad from the anxiousness of whats to come. After you get all the sweet dish about your blind date, as we’ll the phone number I hope… its time to set the environment, the what,when,and where.
Now the adventure is really going to start… The where: If you read on the dating tips area above, you will now know, that’s dates are a form of getting to know each other, almost like an interview but don’t make it out to be one. Keep it short and sweet but most of all an easy place to meet up at. Perhaps a walk around the local museum, a picnic in the park, or drinks at your local coffee shop/ Another great idea, which I thought was sweet is going to a craft store, where you can make your own art to take home (hey, I know what your thinking) but its a creative blind dating! However, don’t go to the movies or a loud bar or club. Its near impossible to hear or talk to each other..and the whole point is to do so! Now that we know where were going..how about when?
You want to aim at a time and date that of course works for both of you. So you ask whats the best time for a date? Me, if it’s the first date…and a blind on at that, I like to keep it during the day light hours around lunch, preferable on a Saturday. This is for a number of reasons, one lots of things are going on for a Saturday so it keeps your options open, two most folks (we’ll key word most) don’t work on a Saturday and the best answer to this…number three if the date is going great you can extent the hours and if the date is terrible wrong, you still have time to hang out with friends later! See…blind dating is so far…is not so bad!
Now, lastly, what are you planning to do? We’ll first off your planing on going on a blind date. Get yourself together, breath and then shortly after give them a call, that is if they weren’t planning on calling you first. For now though we’ll have you calling. After you get them on the phone, just announce who you are and that your excited to meet them and the whole idea of blind dating, get the details and share your ideas of what you would like to plan for the both of you, included the time and date of this wonderful adventure. As we’ll, how will you recognize each other, if you never met before? (Yes, I know cell phones) but, you never know about the connection or if batteries die, trust me its happen to me, and it sucks! Just remember these little details, when your on the phone with them.
Now, that your all set up on the what, when and where your good as gold. It’s all about getting your dating skills down when you met up with your blind date. Remember, that even though blind dating is a pain in the butt, it can be a great adventure, however one last tip before I close this off, what if you don’t like your blind date? No worries, if you followed the plan from time, date and where you should just go on and enjoy yourself…you never know even though it’s not love, it could be a great friends in the making. But most of all be straight forward about how you feel, if it doesn’t work out let them know. Like I said in the dating tips area….its a date not a seal deal to marriage. So good luck and have fun…but most of all be safe!!
added tips or online blind dating:
*If it’s an online blind date.. make sure you get as many details of the person your meeting.
*ALWAYS tell somewhere where your going and what time ALWAYS.
*Meet in a public area, never in a discreet area.
*Tell a friend to give you a check up call during your date, and make sure your phone is on as well. Let them know all is well or …
* have fun!!
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